I have been preaching self-care for a LONG time.
Take care of yourself, sit in a warm bath, take a power nap, read, do all the things that make you happy…yada yada yada. You get the point.
I’ve learned something new about self-care. I don’t know who said this, or even where I heard it, or maybe I read it…I don’t know. But it made sense so I’m sharing it with you. I like to share the things that make sense. They said that self care isn’t just about the bubble baths and the happy podcasts. It’s about CARING FOR YOURSELF in a very proactive way. It’s about eating right, exercising, taking time out for creativity, nurturing your spirituality (whatever that looks like to you), getting sleep. Spending time doing things that make you FEEL better inside & out. Why was this idea such a shock to me?? I really can’t tell you. Do you think of it as self-care when you do these things?
This person said (or wrote) that self-care means doing it what it takes to make yourself HEALTHY. We are coming up on the New Year, which for many of you means resolution time. So health is on our minds. Exercise, eat right, drink green smoothies everyday, take the vitamins. Again yada yada yada…how long will that last?
Why? Why do we set these goals every January and only some stick with them? Some people make all of the changes they want to. I would wage a guess that most don’t. But those that don’t, take care of a bunch of other people in that year’s time. Family, kids, a pet, they all get priority over us. Is it because we look at it as something that we should do, but it is selfish to actually take the time to do it? Why is that women have such a hard time with taking care of themselves? How about if we looked at it as something we HAVE to do? We HAVE to take care of ourselves so that we can be healthy and strong and be there for OURSELVES. Is that weird for you like it is for me? I think of being healthy as something that helps me be a better wife & mom. Or so that I can be here for my grandkids someday. I think of money spent on insurance bills or all the other reasons I should be healthy but never for the purpose of it being self-care. That’s kind of crazy, huh? It makes sense for me to do it for myself. It’s not selfish, it’s necessary.
What I’m thinking…and tell me if it rings a bell with you…is that self-care, as I’ve known it, is a treatment for a symptom. That the actual cause of the problem is something more and it deserves to be treated too. We need the self-care I’ve been preaching to offset the root cause. So, my challenge for you this beautiful Monday in December, is to sit down and look at the deeper down issues. Write them down, make a journal about it for this year. If it is eating & exercise (it is for me) or spirituality (me) or spending time nurturing my creativity (again…I’m kind of a mess over here) let’s look at it all honestly and see what needs to be done about it. I am not a proponent of resolutions, but I do like the thought of making small steps to doing better. I think it lasts longer when you have kind of a plan and some goals but you look at it as lifestyle changes. More importantly what if we looked at it as being something WE NEED to live a better life? Will you do it for yourself because you are worth it? You deserve it.
Much love and Happy Holidays!
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